Aint No Right

kv wrote:Is it bad when you are going to bed at 3am and a gurgling sound is coming out of your house? What about when you walk in your bedroom and water is pushing up through the cement slab?...not a old cement slab mind you...it's just three years old...ya know from the last time the mainline broke and a plumber got rich

Oh man, that sucks. Having dealt with a lot of trades lately, I know it's VERY expensive to fix that kind of stuff. Those guys- and a few gals- who learned a trade arer making a ton of money!

kv wrote:Is it bad when you are going to bed at 3am and a gurgling sound is coming out of your house? What about when you walk in your bedroom and water is pushing up through the cement slab?...not a old cement slab mind you...it's just three years old...ya know from the last time the mainline broke and a plumber got rich

That sucks hard. Did you pay out of pocket or did your insurance cover the original brake?

my boyfriend and i broke up today. he was/is my first serious relationship/love. we lasted almost two years. it wasn't a mutual decision, but i dont have any ill will towards him other then it just being really painful.

this fucking sucks! any advice for first time heartbreak?

Sorry to hear FG.

I got no good advice.... just be sure to keep your head up and have faith time will heal.

And always be sure to love yourself no matter what.

Sorry to hear.

Allow time to feel sad, but try to spend time with those that make you happy.

Yeah, sorry to hear that. Just make sure that you stay within the boundaries of self-care. Like, make sure you eat properly, stay in touch with friends, that kind of thing.

Music, books and good movies can also help sorting out thoughts and feelings.

Take care of yourself

sorry FG, maybe check out some self help videos on youtube on the subject

GET OUTSIDE A LOT!

and obviously lean on your friends...they will fill your head with all things them..which is nice when the last thing you wanna do is self reflect...and treat yourself...nice meals...concerts...excite your senses...fucking live...force yourself down the road in the upmost of luxury and pampering...because fuck that dude...your show goes on!

@FG: You are still growing emotionally and, as I'm sure you already know, couples don't end up moving in the same direction. It sounds as though you are handling this well. Although there is no animosity between you, if he comes around and wants to "hang out" and be "friends" I strongly suggest you don't this. At least not right away; maybe down the road once you are truly over him. You don't want to end up in a situation where you still have feelings for him and are occasionally hooking up. You will have a harder time moving on and just end up more hurt and confused.

In the meantime stay busy. As KV said, pamper yourself. Have fun. Get out of your predictable routine. You live in NYC!!

(And for God's sake, no drunken texts! Post here instead!! )

nausearockpig wrote:Sorry to hear.

Allow time to feel sad, but try to spend time with those that make you happy.

This helps a lot!

chaos wrote: In the meantime stay busy. As KV said, pamper yourself. Have fun. Get out of your predictable routine. You live in NYC!!

(And for God's sake, no drunken texts! Post here instead!! )

Great advice! I'm glad I had no social media nor cellphone when I broke up with someone the first time.

Thank you all SO MUCH just reading your posts makes me feel better.

Social media definitely adds an entire dimension. I'm trying to go cold turkey so we deleted each other on fb, I deleted my Instagram (temporarily Atleast), got rid of photos from my phone etc. I wouldn't even say I posted that much about our relationship but you soon realize the person is omnipotent on the internet.

I am still in grad school taking three classes and I have two jobs so i am already busy and will just try to dive into that. Go out and have fun too in time.

Thanks again everyone. And chaos, I didn't even think about the drunken texts yet lol that is incredibly solid advice I will have to give my phone to someone when I'm out.

Sorry to hear that, FG.
As the others have said, time, self-care and reconnecting with friends and family will help you through. I would also like to add, try not to overanalyze at this time why things didn't work out. Easier said than done, I know, but in time you will have greater clarity.

Annoying me today: my fucking stomach.

It seems like I can't tolerate onion anymore. Every time I eat something with onion in it, I spend about 24-36 hours with an extremely annoying stomach ache. It's not even that I have diarrhea or anything like that, it's just this fucking pain that won't stop. And I'd still have to go to the toilet 3 or 4 times.

I'm not even gonna miss that fucking vegetable.

Larry B. wrote:I'm not even gonna miss that fucking vegetable.

Ah, yes you are...it's used as an aromatic in a lot....I mean, likely, A LOT of what you eat. If you have a broad/eclectic diet you eat lots of onion you can't see.

But, feel better, for real.

SR wrote:

Larry B. wrote:I'm not even gonna miss that fucking vegetable.

Ah, yes you are...it's used as an aromatic in a lot....I mean, likely, A LOT of what you eat. If you have a broad/eclectic diet you eat lots of onion you can't see.

But, feel better, for real.

that sucks. i cant eat crockpot onions. i actually cant eat anything cooked in a crockpot. fucks with my stomach every time.

Don't worry its socially acceptable nowadays to be a picky eater who won't eat onions

There's a big fire in the Anaheim Hills which is about 15 miles NE of me and the smoke and ash plum is dumping right over my area. It's literally snowing black and white ash:

^ That would freak me out.

@Pandemonium - Is that the closest the fires have ever come to your residence?

chaos wrote:^ That would freak me out.

@Pandemonium - Is that the closest the fires have ever come to your residence?

I'm going to try and answer for him and say no...

There was a very bad fire in the 90's in the Laguna Hills...that burnt down a lot of homes...me being stupid took it as the perfect time to drive behind closed road blocks so I could "experience" it....needless to say the last 20 years I haven't tried such a stunt again..(I can still vividly remember too much of it today...felt like driving around inside an erupting volcano) the ash from that blew to my house some 50 miles away...wildfire sunsets are amazingly beautiful and tragic...when I got within 10 miles of that fire it looked like a snowstorm and smelled like burning couches...and it just got worse the closer I got.

I have several elderly family members displaced with the fires in no cal, one moved from the hospital she was at. They are far more deadly then the so cal fires ATM... my sister a school teacher said the schools are all being closed till Monday...due to the horrid air quality in Oakland which isn't in any danger.

Earthquakes and wildfires are our burden to bare to live by the Pacific. It's all good until someone you love is impacted... ironicly the same lady who was moved from her hospital...and whose husband was taken out of their home...had quite the time getting over the Big San Fran earthquake...she was on the underside of a dbl stacker freeway that collapsed killing a bunch of people...she on a thought of a nearby bakery she was about to pass and on a whim got off the freeway 30 seconds before the quake hit...poor lady, stay tough Maureen!

It rained ash for a good two weeks in portland and really all of oregon this summer. Half the Columbia River Gorge burned, 50,000 acres because a kid threw a firecracker off a cliff. You could hardly see down the road and everything was a dark grey/orange color with the sun blotted out. The worst was not being able to get a decent breath of air. I cant imsgine living in Beijing. Aweful aweful.

I think the world is calling it quits for the humans....puts an asshole in charge to speed things along.

kv wrote:There was a very bad fire in the 90's in the Laguna Hills...that burnt down a lot of homes...me being stupid took it as the perfect time to drive behind closed road blocks so I could "experience" it....needless to say the last 20 years I haven't tried such a stunt again..(I can still vividly remember too much of it today...felt like driving around inside an erupting volcano) the ash from that blew to my house some 50 miles away...wildfire sunsets are amazingly beautiful and tragic...when I got within 10 miles of that fire it looked like a snowstorm and smelled like burning couches...and it just got worse the closer I got.

Yeah, I remember that one vividly. This was about a week before Halloween 1993, I was taking night classes at Platt Graphic Arts College a mile or two south of John Wayne airport and about 5 miles north of the fire. I'd been hearing about the fire growing all afternoon but it wasn't until early evening at class when it became apparent it was becoming a serious threat locally. They let us out early and walking to my car I took this photo as the fire was becoming visible over the hills threatening UC Irvine....



Another one that was pretty bad was the November 2008 Santa Ana Canyon fire which dumped a lot of smoke and ash over a week-plus period here. This is a photo I took from near my home on an overpass at the 405 freeway....



Bad as it can get, it's infinitely worse in Northern California right now. My oldest friend lives just south of Santa Rose in Rohnert Park and I understand they now have a major fire only about 5 miles East moving directly towards that city.

A good buddy since elementary school barely escaped with his wife and two kids... here's an aerial of his neighborhood:

Quite a few mental things happening on my father's side of the family; people needing relatively urgent psychological and psychiatric assistance, who fight each other relatively frequently. Whenever I try to help, they magically reconcile and talk about how much of a "better man" I think I am, and who I think I am to believe that I have the superiority of "helping them", because they're the ones really helping each other. How dare I do that. "You don't even visit anymore" (they forgot to mention the fact that they basically barred me from visiting them). How dare I say to X that she's not helping Y! (I never did )

The good thing, at least, is that the can of worms if finally opening. But the fake world some people are living in, it's amazing.

Boiler issues. There's no hot water or heat in my building right now. The service people are supposed to arrive be the next few hours.